Use Guilt as a Compass
Feelings of Guilt
Guilt evolved as a way to let someone know they behaved badly. From an evolutionary perspective, guilt helped tribes regulate their members. Engaging in socially unacceptable behaviour led the “guilty party” to suffer social isolation, which, in those days, was deadly.
Today guilt has morphed into a complex emotion, compounded by society’s conflicting views on what constitutes a moral transgression. A guilt complex can afflict people for many reasons, but it’s basically a feeling that results from something we did, want to do (but know we shouldn’t), or didn’t do but should have. Meanwhile, misplaced guilt happens in men who were abused as kids and made to feel bad about existing. In all cases, guilt is difficult for us to talk about, making it hard to ask for help.
Carrying a guilt complex around without dealing with it can make us feel worthless and humiliated, eventually causing self-esteem issues and self-defeating behaviours. Working through your guilt with a professional can help you understand where your guilt comes from, and move towards a living a truthful life.
Symptoms of Guilt
Guilt can be a productive emotion that, when listened to and understood, can lead to positive change in a guy’s life. However, if a man lives with unresolved or misplaced guilt, he lives in distress and with a constant fear of being found out. This fear can weigh him down, leading to anxiety and a host of other physical and mental problems.
Treating Feelings of Guilt in Men
Guilt is a common issue in men and with the right help, it can be handled. To help you manage your guilt, we’ll first investigate its root cause, which might be due to childhood abuse, failing to live up to expectations, violating your ethics, or engaging in unhealthy behaviours. We’ll then use counselling and coaching to look at your attitudes and behaviours to see what’s holding you back and how to think differently. Finally, we teach you the tools you need to treat your issues, making way for you to live an authentic life.
Break the stigma
You are enough