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Self Esteem Issues in Men

Historically our sense of self was defined by our community and cultural values. But in the modern world, we’re left on our own to decide what our values and beliefs about ourselves are. This is further complicated by our societal views on masculinity, telling us that men should be strong and in control.

No amount of prestige or financial success can make us like ourselves more. Having low-self esteem can originate from many sources like childhood bullying, unsuccessful romantic relationships, perfectionism, comparing yourself to cultural ideals (especially in the day and age of social media), and even how we were raised (typically by parents who showed transactional love based on the grades you got in school, rather than giving unconditional love).

Men of all ages, races and professions struggle with low self-esteem, and no amount of power or money will fix it, because feeling adequate has to do with internal, rather than external, approval. Working with a counsellor can help unravel where self-esteem comes from and provide practical tools to approach life from the top.


The age when self-esteem is the highest.

– Time Magazine


Those with high self-esteem earn $28,000 more annually than those with low self-confidence.

– NBC News


Teenage boys with high-self esteem are 2.5 times more likely to initiate sex than boys with low self-esteem.

– Very Well Mind

Symptoms of Low Self Esteem in Men

Some men with low self-esteem might have superficial romantic relationships, a lack of real friends and perform poorly at school or work. Other guys might put on a false front to impress others, constantly overachieve, be a workaholic and compensate with material possessions. Others suffer silently amongst a sea of self-doubt, unable to take a compliment, always overthinking and over apologizing.

  • Fatigue
  • Insomnia
  • Headaches
  • Heavy feelings
  • Tight chest & throat
  • Limited eye contact
  • Negative outlook
  • Lack of confidence
  • Unable to express needs
  • Can’t accept feedback
  • Hostility
  • Feelings of failure, shame
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